The 3 Components Of The Dating Game

To all you aspiring seducers out there, I’m here to give you a solid piece of advice, that doesn’t get mentioned often, but should get mentioned – it’s just that it seems so obvious to men who are good with women, men who write good game blogs, the one’s that get women a lot; as well with any alpha’s you may know in real life that get a lot of poon and may give you morsels of advice on how to get women. With all the other tactics in picking up a girl, or building/creating attraction, how and when to escalate, etc. these sometimes can feel robotic or unnatural for newbs who are taking their first approaches, some under the tutelage of some well respected and famous ‘original’ game guru’s. These poor students still have the deer in headlights look in their eyes when talking to beautiful women. Their clear and obvious signs of thinking of beautiful girls as the holy grail are imprinted on the doe eyed looks of awe when they start conversing with a hot babe with their new found powers and skills that were given to them in the pick up class they just spent a ton of money on.

There are three keys of seducing girls, and picking them up, and with these three keys you can pick up and seduce a girl in any situation and any place, time permitting. The three keys are this: Confidence, Ignoring their beauty, and perhaps the most overlooked is: enjoy the seduction.

Confidence

There are a ton of posts here at the shift, and at other blogs dealing with confidence and why it’s important, we won’t go into too much detail here, but needless to say, with out honest confidence, the playful aloof cocky/funny confidence, and even better yet, the confidence that you can bed women, and take on any situation in life, will provide you with enough power to be able to obviously handle any of those situations like pick up, and shit tests, etc. Confidence is tricky, it’s described as a belief in yourself and all that kind of thing, and that is important, very important, but social confidence will take you farther in life. Any man has his weak moments and doubts, it’s the man who can confidently traverse through the peaks and valleys of social situations that will find girls actually coming to him, and opening him, rather than waiting for a target and then working up all your inner confidence and then going up to her and talk to her. Building up your social confidence means, talk to everyone, have a good social vibe, learn to take teasing or negs from everyone and pass them – a blend of strong inner confidence with social confidence is what turns paupers into princes, or beta’s into Lothario’s.

Ignoring Her Beauty

Again this has been said before, coined best by Loveawake, but just about every dating game blogger or seducer knows this to be true. You cannot go up to a girl you are in awe of and think you are going to seduce her. You cannot have a girl feeling she’s better than you at any point during any seduction, either short term or in a longer relationship, once she feels she’s superior than you, and you don’t at the very least knock her down a few steps, she will be lost forever. Remember with some girls this is going to be their default position when you approach them, see the above category on how to not care about what she thinks, and display high value, but in this category, not being in awe of her, or even showing too much value in her looks will do wonders about blowing the pedastal out from under her feet. She’ll giggle and feel insecure if you display that she’s at the most, as hot as 20 of the other girls in the room, and you’re not that impressed.

Enjoy The Seduction

This is the part where experienced players will scoff at my inclusion, with any man that’s good with single women this is a no brainer, something they wouldn’t even think of, common knowledge, nothing game-breaking here. But many of us forget what it was like when they weren’t good at seducing women, or some didn’t even have a time where they didn’t enjoy the seduction. But as much as this blog and others like it are for ourselves and our communities, guys looking to improve their dating game, etc. it is also here for newbies and never before’ers. Single guys that have never learned how to seduce a woman and want to get good at it. Hell even some practitioners right now could stand to heed this categories advice. You need to enjoy the entire process of seduction. From the initial hook, to building rapport, to passing shit tests, to negging, to escalating, to finishing, to sending her home. The entire process should be enjoyed on the same level as your end goal, which is bang.

Too many men get excited with game and go out with a girl, and try and either rush to the finish, or get caught up on what to do next to get to the next ‘stage’ of seduction. The initial thing about the dating game when I started reading others blogs was this point by point breakdown of stages and strategies – I was scratching my head – I came to terms with it that newbies need this because they haven’t been good at seduction and need some sign posts, so I was okay with it. Another valid point for these guides is the analysis to help men understand what’s going on in each stage, another valid and helpful strategy. But men who aren’t good with women, and are just learning will latch on to these strategies like a obsessive compusilveness that ends up doing them a disservice. The best seductions are when you let go and enjoy the process, which means, you need to enjoy the girl your with, and you need to enjoy the process of seducing her. The end goal is irrelevant to think about, your dick should be doing that, and you both came to the table with the same end goal, despite what the girls hamster tells her, so it’s a no brainer. You should solely be focusing on the task at hand, seducing, and enjoying each moment and each stage. Every good seduction is always somewhat organic, even when using the dating game, there’s an energy there between you that game teaches you to build and create, but with out this actual desire and enjoyment out of building it, you will find it difficult to grasp and create. Make your seduction organic and let it go where it needs to go, and sit back and enjoy the ride.